The 7 attitudes you MUST develop for amazing things to start happening

The 7 attitudes you MUST develop for amazing things to start happening

Next time things get overwhelming and hard and you’re getting perfectionistic, & frustrated and impatient, I want you to STOP & remember this one thing:

You have a choice about how things affect you. 

Everything is coloured by the relationship you have with yourself.

When that relationship thrives, your life thrives. 

& Like any relationship, that relationship thrives or dies based on the attitudes and quality of attention you bring to it.

Develop these seven attitudes for yourself and they will permeate into the rest of your life.

I have to tell you, I have a history of being pretty hard on myself. I bet you probably do too, so these attitudes can be a bit of a challenge, but it’s OH-SO-WORTH-IT when you remind yourself to take them on.

These seven attitudes have been a key to relaxed and happy living.

Here are my seven key attitudes:


1. Curiosity

“ Be curious, not judgmental” – Walt Whitman

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With others:

Every time you are judgmental about something or someone and you find yourself in your head… Get curious.

Get curious about that person. Get curious about their experience. Get curious about your own judgment.

You’ll see. You get out of your head and into your heart instantly.

With yourself:

Can you get curious about what you’re feeling? Can you move past the idea you know everything already? Can you get curious about the resistance you feel? The fears that stop you? Are you interested in the genius that’s within you?

About things:

[bctt tweet=”Follow your curiosity, and you will find PASSION! – @IngeBroer”] It’ll expand. It’ll grow. It’ll become a whole field of interesting things you can be curious about.

Amazing things will happen:

As you get out of judgment and into curiosity, whole new worlds will open for you. Passions will reveal themselves. The status quo gets broken. Relationships deepen. Fears don’t hold you in as tight of a grip anymore. <- I’m getting excited! Let’s get curious!

2. Gentleness

“Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength” – St. Francis de Sales

9I know it can be tempting to try to jerk yourself into behaving, into feeling the way you’re “supposed to”. It even works a lot of the time. Maybe you’re finding it’s the only way you can get your ass into gear.

Consider this, though:

Inside of you, there’s incredible wells of untapped potential. How are they going to grow if you keep yelling at them?

There’s little soft and tender and beautiful little seedlings waiting to grow into strong, capable forces of nature. To nourish those parts of you, you need incredible gentleness. You can’t yell at a force of nature to make it grow faster. It just doesn’t care.

When you’re gentle with yourself in that way, so much softness, beauty, grace flows out of it.

Places in you that were untapped, unheard, start revealing themselves and growing strong and unstoppable.

You also learn to hear what your body needs and are willing to give it to yourself.

 

Amazing things will happen:

You stop pushing yourself to impossible limits that leave you depleted, exhausted and perfectly irritable.

You are refreshed and responsive and able to show up for yourself and others in a deeper way. Your relationships deepen. You achieve more, become more, with less stress and worry.

3. Patience

“There is no never… Just long periods of not yet” – Solenn Heusaff

3“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.”

If you’re anything like me, you can get pretty impatient at times. Eh. Things take time. Especially the things we really want. I know.

It’s important to take a step back and let things unfold – sometimes they need all sorts of things you can’t provide.

You are in co-creation with the Universe. Sometimes you can do your part, but the Universe’s part takes time.

When you can see that things take time and you appreciate it, you can also be more fond of the result. When you’re patient, you’re also remaining open to reaping the rewards of what you sowed a long time ago.

Besides, on a super pragmatic level: patience feels a lot better than impatience.

Impatience will probably still happen though, so … why not be patient with it! “This too shall pass”

Amazing things will happen:

You will get a lot more rewards because you were able to wait for them to grow.  It’s the 5th step to manifesting (by Gabby Bernstein), so basically that means: It’s KEY to getting anything and everything you want.

4. Accepting

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am then I can change” – Carl Rogers

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This quote says it all. It is a paradox. And it is true.

[bctt tweet=”Somehow relaxing around the way things are, and accepting them, allows the room for them to change. – @IngeBroer”]

There’s also something strong about accepting what comes up for you when you do self-work. When you’re not accepting, you’re implicitly telling parts of yourself: “it’s not OK. Stay hidden. I don’t want to deal with you”.

Instead, when you say “It’s OK. I’m curious and open and I’ll accept you the way you are”, those parts of you are willing to speak with you, to tell you what’s wrong. It allows the space for those parts of you to actually change and communicate with the rest of you.

Honestly, whatever you’re thinking or feeling, it’s OK. Welcome it. Acknowledge it. Accept that it’s there.
(It’s not OK to ACT on everything you feel, however. But bringing it to the surface, and knowing what’s there: Just fine. Yes, even rage, even hatred. The attitude you want to develop is “it’s OK”, “I can feel this”).

It can help to know that everything passes.

Amazing things will happen: Relaxation. Healing. Wonderful, amazing ressources available for what you want to create rather than what you want to fight. So much less energy is spent fighting yourself.


5. Caring

“If you were the caregiver of another person the way you care for yourself, would you be guilty of neglect?” D. Estep.

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Do you care for yourself? Truly? Deeply? How is your self-talk? Do you bash yourself when you’re afraid? Or do you nurture and love yourself so that you may overcome the fear?

Do you care enough about your well-being to make it a priority ? What are the ways you cheat yourself?

Developing the attitude of caring means taking care of yourself even when it’s hard, even when it means saying “no”. It means prioritizing. It means caring for yourself so that you can care for others.

I struggle with this every day. I have had a slight tendency to put myself last – it serves no one, to be honest. Sometimes it means risking feeling a little selfish. Sometimes it means reprioritizing my day. I’m telling you, though, this is worth it.

[bctt tweet=”When you deeply care about yourself, you stop making excuses. – @IngeBroer #SelfLove”]

You know what’s good for you. So do it.

Care enough to show up. Care enough to have the difficult conversations when you know it’s right. Care enough to put clean food in your body. Care enough to move your body. Care enough to sleep.

Amazing things will happen:

When you care, truly deeply care, you bring so many resources to the table. You are amazing. You will get so much done when you care for yourself and what you do.

6. Open

“Only an Open Heart will catch a dream”

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I like to think of myself as a conspiracy theorist. The kind that believes that the world is conspiring for my GOOD.
There are miracles at every corner. A client reminded herself this week: “Always expect wonderful things to happen”. Seriously. Truer words have never been spoken. They will. This is an attitude that will pay you a thousand fold.

Keep your eyes open. Keep your heart open.

There is SO much wanting to happen for you.

[bctt tweet=”Keep your eyes peeled and act on the opportunities when they arise. Stay. Open. – @IngeBroer “]

When you close, when you bog down on things, you miss out. It’s OK. Sometimes you need to focus. The rest of the time? Stay open. Be in awe.

This counts for the amazing things, but also for the harder things.
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tay open and you’ll be able to handle things with more ease, simply because you’re not closing up parts of yourself, making them unavailable.

It’s work. It’s a commitment. And it’s worth it.

Amazing things will happen:

Opportunities will arise. Things will unfold in ways you can’t even imagine. Relationships will deepen. Free stuff will come your way.

7. Receptive

“Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it” – Rabindranath Tagore

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Every time something comes up for you – whether a challenge, an old fear, an enemy… or even an incredible gift that is beyond anything you could imagine;). Allow yourself to welcome it with open arms. Develop the attitude of receiving, of honouring.

[bctt tweet=”Receive everything in your inner world as if it were an honoured guest. What can you learn? – @IngeBroer”]

See what you can learn from it.

Can you see everything as a gift? Painful ones, happy ones, surprising ones? Can you engage with what comes your way?

I have trouble with this. I so often want to put the blinders on. And I do. Nobody’s perfect ;). Yet, when you cultivate this attitude, amazing things happen. ;).

Amazing things will happen:

You will deepen your wisdom. Learn from the challenges. Receive incredible gifts.

 Did you like this? Did it boost your Attitude? Make it clearer why Attitudes are so important? Want more from me?

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9 Responses to The 7 attitudes you MUST develop for amazing things to start happening

  1. Emily Verrecchia April 6, 2016 at 10:16 am #

    #5 Caring really resonated with me, I have been neglecting myself, and its time to start loving myself first!

    • Inge April 12, 2016 at 2:39 pm #

      YES!!!!!!!!

  2. Chantal July 31, 2014 at 10:40 am #

    Beautiful thoughts beautifully expressed. Thank you 🙂

  3. Molly June 12, 2014 at 1:22 pm #

    I’m learning so much priceless wisdom from these blog posts and newsletters. Thank you, Inge! You’re so wise : )

  4. Camesha June 11, 2014 at 1:13 am #

    These are spot on! The hardest thing is truly patience. I have gotten so much better at it though. These are all great things to keep in mind to keep things in perspective.

  5. Ramona June 7, 2014 at 12:09 pm #

    What a great source of inspiration! I particularly love the parts about curiosity, openess and acceptance. I truly believe that knowing about all this and actually implementing it is the only way to come alive 🙂 Thanks for sharing this!

  6. Gemma June 6, 2014 at 7:07 pm #

    Wow Inge – what a beautiful piece. Something which I will be saving to revisit time and time again.

  7. brenda June 5, 2014 at 12:58 pm #

    7 very important attitudes and as I read this post, I thought about the girl I was in my 20s…so judgmental, closed, non-receptive. Life then knocked me around a bit and now in my 40’s try to remember these good attitudes I possess and try everyday to deepen my wisdom. Great reminders!

  8. april June 4, 2014 at 3:46 am #

    i love your 7 attitudes, inge (and i love that you chose 7 since that’s my favorite number :)). what i especially appreciate though are your lists of “amazing things that will happen” when you truly adopt these attitudes. knowing why and looking forward to life-changing results . . . so very very important.

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